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Couples Therapy: Togetherness or two separated individuals

How is it going with you and your partners relationship? Are you still together or separated? This status is influenced long before you make the actual decision to move physically apart.

Often Spirit and Mind ApS meet couples that act more as two individuals that a couple. What has happened?

Somehow the togetherness, the “we” has been taken out the equation, and substituted by an “I”. The thought may no longer be on what is best for the relationship, but what is best for “me”.

Forgetting the “we” and the relationship invites to individualism and for some couples also to competition.

Who has the right to relax? Avoid the cleaning/the dished/the laundry?

The focus become more on how to win an argument, that being in the relationship. The individual that win becomes right.

In such a relationship constellation, being right means power and influence. Power to overrule, power to get ones point across.

If fighting is part of the way the couple try to communicate, often this will include personal attacks, bringing your partners weakest point forward or reminding your partner about shortcomings of the past.

This leaves very little space and mental room for the “us”, the “we” and the togetherness. We tend to forget why we got together in the first place.

In narrative couples therapy we talk about that the dominating stories that exists in the relationship and are overshading the preferred stories, where we are satisfied and fulfilled by the relationship.

Often talking about the stories of the relationship and remembering the more preferred stories can change the positions that each persons is taking in the relationship.

Spirit and Mind ApS offers both couples therapy and individual therapy in English. If your partner does not want to join the therapy, we can also talk about couple related topics during the individual sessions.

Please click here to go to the English homepage of Spirit and Mind ApS.

At the homepage you will find information about the various treatment options, suggestions for potential themes for each treatment type and information about Spirit and Mind ApS including a full CV.

Prices and Discount

Spirit and Mind ApS wishes that therapy and coaching is an option for all and gives discount to: Students, unemployed and retired people. No discount is given on couples- and family therapy.

See prices here

Times and Contact

At Spirit and Mind ApS you can get sessions with Inge G. F. Larsen outside regular working hours.

See times at Spirit and Mind ApS here

Contact Spirit and Mind ApS here

Narrative sessions with discount at Frederiksberg and over Skype

Spirit and Mind ApS provides individual therapy and coaching, business & executive coaching, outplacement, couples- and family therapy as well as therapy with children and teenagers at Frederiksberg and over Skype based on the narrative approach. Further Spirit and Mind ApS works with gifted children, which are children with an IQ above 125.

Get an overview over all the options for treatments here

See further information on Spirit and Mind ApS’s English homepage here



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